Loving the Unlovable

Marriage is weird but sweet. It has it's ups downs; the good and bad times are but common.
This is where you have to accept the imperfect being and love as though perfect. I dont know if you understand what i mean...
It's easy to love people who love you back. But then there are times when it's not so easy to love. The times you have been hurt and wronged. Are you still supposed to love someone who hurts you? And, if so, how?

My focus today is on love in marriage.
The internet and social media is streaming with couples fighting in their homes. It's no longer funny any more.
While I eariler thought that covid19 lockdown would create time for families to bond and love one another, things have turned out different for many.

Some men who can no longer visit their mpango wa kandos are stressed and have resorted to violence.
The home has become  place of war.
Marriages are breaking and unfortunately it will finally get to the children who are innocent as for those with kids.

The rate of violence and molestation has increased in a very short span.
Im very young in marriage but I just have to say something concerning this.
I don't know it all but I would love to encourage someone that is going through such tough times.

Here are six ways, among many others, to show love to a difficult person(spouse) God has placed in your path.
 1. Pray for your own heart. 
 Ask God to soften your heart towards this person, to put off anger and irritability, to put on meekness and kindness, to understand this person’s struggles and meet them with compassion (Colossians 3:12–14). 
 2. Pray for them. 
 Ask God to be at work in their hearts, drawing unbelievers to himself and sanctifying believers to become more like Jesus (Philippians 1:9–11). 
3. Move toward them, not away from them. 
 Although our tendency is to want to steer clear and fight the people with whom we have strained relationships, they are exactly the people we need to be intentionally moving toward. Find ways to engage them in conversation. Pay wrong with kindness and goodness. Play your honest part. 
 4. Find specific ways to bless and encourage them. Write them a note of appreciation. Tell them you are praying for them. 
 5. Give them grace, just as God extends grace to you. 
 Remember God’s lavish grace poured out for your own daily sins. Ask God to help you bear with them, forgiving them, as he has forgiven you. 
(Colossians 3:13)
 6. Realize that you too could be the difficult person in someone else’s life! 
 You might not even realize that you are a thorn in the flesh for someone close to you. Don’t be oblivious to your own shortcomings and sins. God will be honoured and our hearts will find deeper satisfaction as we seek to love people just as Christ loved us when we were yet sinners.

In practicality, these things are very difficult to do. It requires a lot of strength, patience and the Grace of God.
And so to my dear readers that are going through tough times in marriage, please do not give up just yet. Christ Jesus is still at work and will restore all that is lost. BELIEVE THAT!!!
Amen!!