Finding Lost Love
Everyone deserves to be happy in whatever relationship they are.
Unfortunately most people are not.
This has been made evident from the violence, and silent wars we are currently experiencing in our homes.
It's surely a tough time. We are fighting Corona and our "loved ones" at the same time.
Today i would love to share about joy in marriage. Dont judge me harshly because I might not be right in these things im saying. Im human, very young in marriage and im also still trying to learn.
I choose this intresting topic beacuse I see many unhappy people around me. Guys that are just but struggling through their relationships. Guys that are staying together and bearing each other because of kids, the church, extended family and/or friends.
People seem to care more about what others would say (society) than their own happiness.
The negative things that society has come up with have become norms. Its no longer a big deal for couples to cheat on each other as long as certain essential needs are being provided(food, rent, school fees, etc...)
Is that the real meaning of marriage? I thought all these things come as a package...
Husbands no longer take their wives for suprise dates. No more sweet love notes that were common while dating. Wives no longer try to look good for their hubbies. No more cute dresses or make ups. Wives no longer cook their husbands special meals. Once married everyone decides to ease on the efforts they used to make while dating.
How do we sort this out? How do we bring back the joy that was once there?
Ive heard people say that once you are married you are no longer happy.
A group of women allegedly called "The slay queen association" recently were complaining about not recieving their normal goodies from their counterparts. In this case being the married men. Such like things have become so common to the extent that their is no shame in uttering or engaging in such.
Some Wives have accepted the fact that their husbands have their mpango wa kandos and husbands have taken it deep in their heads that their wives are no longer pretty enough for them or cannot satisfy their needs.
I've heard this not once or twice, "that once you get married you will be miserable forever."
I was having a chat with a friend and she was telling me that we better expect a spike in the rate of divorce once this covid19 issue is over.
There is no more love in relationships. Men and women are just staying together for the sake of it. There’s no end to books, articles and seminars that tell you how to improve these and many other aspects of your relationship. But while quality time, forgiveness and communication are vitally important to creating a happy marriage, if such things aren’t happening, it’s usually a sign of a much deeper problem. And until this problem is addressed, no amount of external behaviour modification will work.
The celebrities and leaders society have also shown bad examples by getting themselves in love triangles from time and again.
Musicians, actors, Governors, MPs, Senators and MCA's lead in such scandals.
All marriages start out as huge celebrations. What surely happens after the honey moon?
What should we do to rekindle the love that earlier was?
Do you give up and file for divorce then look for someone who will make you happy? But what if you don't find the love you seek?
Do you find a counsellor to talk to? Not everyone can access these sevices or can afford and not also everyone will accept to go.
Do you go on your knees and pray to The Almighty? But what if your supplications to God are not being answered as you wish?
Their is a saying that goes, "Happy wife, happy home." Dear men, we have a big role to play in this.
Suit up, go for dates and try do the little things that your mate loves. Once in a while wont hurt.
Dear wives, wear that pink dress he loves once in a while, make your hair how he loves, cook that githeri how he likes it or even suprise him with a cup cake, give him a listening ear even when you know he is wrong... Something might just happen.
The little things in life are important...
As for those who married tough headed men like Pharaoh or women like Jezebel, im still not sure how to advice you. Because you might be killing yourself doing all sorts if things and he/she trashes them away.
My point is this, their is no special recipe for a happy marriage. It is simply what and whom you prioritize and the things you choose to do.
Not for yourself but for your better half.
PURPOSE TO BE HAPPY!!
It's a choice.
Colossians 3:13
Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
John 15:12
This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
How I hope that this message changes the heart and mind of someone out there who is not happy in a relationship.
This has been made evident from the violence, and silent wars we are currently experiencing in our homes.
It's surely a tough time. We are fighting Corona and our "loved ones" at the same time.
Today i would love to share about joy in marriage. Dont judge me harshly because I might not be right in these things im saying. Im human, very young in marriage and im also still trying to learn.
I choose this intresting topic beacuse I see many unhappy people around me. Guys that are just but struggling through their relationships. Guys that are staying together and bearing each other because of kids, the church, extended family and/or friends.
People seem to care more about what others would say (society) than their own happiness.
The negative things that society has come up with have become norms. Its no longer a big deal for couples to cheat on each other as long as certain essential needs are being provided(food, rent, school fees, etc...)
Is that the real meaning of marriage? I thought all these things come as a package...
Husbands no longer take their wives for suprise dates. No more sweet love notes that were common while dating. Wives no longer try to look good for their hubbies. No more cute dresses or make ups. Wives no longer cook their husbands special meals. Once married everyone decides to ease on the efforts they used to make while dating.
How do we sort this out? How do we bring back the joy that was once there?
Ive heard people say that once you are married you are no longer happy.
A group of women allegedly called "The slay queen association" recently were complaining about not recieving their normal goodies from their counterparts. In this case being the married men. Such like things have become so common to the extent that their is no shame in uttering or engaging in such.
Some Wives have accepted the fact that their husbands have their mpango wa kandos and husbands have taken it deep in their heads that their wives are no longer pretty enough for them or cannot satisfy their needs.
I've heard this not once or twice, "that once you get married you will be miserable forever."
I was having a chat with a friend and she was telling me that we better expect a spike in the rate of divorce once this covid19 issue is over.
There is no more love in relationships. Men and women are just staying together for the sake of it. There’s no end to books, articles and seminars that tell you how to improve these and many other aspects of your relationship. But while quality time, forgiveness and communication are vitally important to creating a happy marriage, if such things aren’t happening, it’s usually a sign of a much deeper problem. And until this problem is addressed, no amount of external behaviour modification will work.
The celebrities and leaders society have also shown bad examples by getting themselves in love triangles from time and again.
Musicians, actors, Governors, MPs, Senators and MCA's lead in such scandals.
All marriages start out as huge celebrations. What surely happens after the honey moon?
What should we do to rekindle the love that earlier was?
Do you give up and file for divorce then look for someone who will make you happy? But what if you don't find the love you seek?
Do you find a counsellor to talk to? Not everyone can access these sevices or can afford and not also everyone will accept to go.
Do you go on your knees and pray to The Almighty? But what if your supplications to God are not being answered as you wish?
Their is a saying that goes, "Happy wife, happy home." Dear men, we have a big role to play in this.
Suit up, go for dates and try do the little things that your mate loves. Once in a while wont hurt.
Dear wives, wear that pink dress he loves once in a while, make your hair how he loves, cook that githeri how he likes it or even suprise him with a cup cake, give him a listening ear even when you know he is wrong... Something might just happen.
The little things in life are important...
As for those who married tough headed men like Pharaoh or women like Jezebel, im still not sure how to advice you. Because you might be killing yourself doing all sorts if things and he/she trashes them away.
My point is this, their is no special recipe for a happy marriage. It is simply what and whom you prioritize and the things you choose to do.
Not for yourself but for your better half.
PURPOSE TO BE HAPPY!!
It's a choice.
Colossians 3:13
Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
John 15:12
This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
How I hope that this message changes the heart and mind of someone out there who is not happy in a relationship.
Thank you
ReplyDelete"What and Whom you prioritize, and the things you choose to do." Thanks for this!
ReplyDeletePurpose to be happy, it is a choice!! Nice one!!👌
ReplyDeleteWell put Mike,thank for this piece....
ReplyDeleteWorth my time
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