Loving Strangers

It’s never that long after officially getting married that the relationship gets rattled. True colors erupt. The pretending cannot go for long…

 

The man that you met always suited up now spends the whole day in the house walking and sleeping in dirty pajamas. 

The man that always complemented your cooking nowadays never eats at home.

The charming man that killed you with words that gave you sleepless nights and glows that shone all day is a moody and arrogant person.

The lady who used to eat with a fork and knife eating a few mouth fulls now eats from the cooking pot and is a serious glutton. 

The man that usually had a nice perfume all over sudden smells of sweat and can skip a few days without showering.

You realize that The beautiful pretty lady had eyes to die for had makeup all the time and the eyes were just lashes and mascara. She is a completely different person at home.

The soft humble and soft spoken lady sleeps across the bed with arms apart while snoring.

The always polite man now gets irritated fast and shouts all the time. 

The man who always kissed you now beats the hell out of you.

The lady that claimed to be an occasional wine drinker is a complete drunkard.

The man that was a deacon in church, a choir member and always led Bible study does not even pray at meal times at home. It was all for show.

You start living together and realize that you have a complete stranger in the house. You have to adjust and learn how to handle this man or woman that you’ve just met. Dating a person and marriage are never the same experiences at most times.

Life can be full of surprises but such are the reality checks that we need to accept or deal with.

When you see couples smile, walk together, dress in matched attire, pray together, eat together, always out for dates or trips, don’t envy them and think that they are have it all together. 

All relationships face different struggles.

Some might be trying to have a child but have failed, some might be having financial challenges, some might be Having health issues, immaturity, unfaithfulness, depression or the many problems that I mentioned earlier.

The grass is not always greener on the other side.

If you need change you can start by accepting this stranger you just met.

Purpose to fight for your relationship.

Appreciate your partner more. 

Be a good listener and better your communication skills.

Thank God for the good and bad times and face your challenges head on. 

Change the pattern. Do you always come home angry? Then stop the car a block away and pray about it first or do whatever else it takes to change your attitude. Does she always nag you when you leave dirty clothes on the floor? Try getting changed in a different room and initiate a new reflex.

Get counseling if possible.

Choose to love. Love is as much a choice as it is an emotion. 

And above all, pray always that The Good Lord may guide and bless your union.

To anyone that is facing challenges please do know that you are not alone. We are all struggling in one way or another.

Stay strong.

#RealityCheck