Effective Communication

A friend of mine was telling me one day that in the middle of the night as he was in deep sleep, dreaming of how he was swimming in the ocean, enjoying the sight of jelly fish and beautiful corals he was sturtled my some movement besides his bed. 

He slowly opened his eyes wishing the dream was true but instead, this was one of those you can't just get back to. 

In pitch darkness he could feel that someone or something was with him in the room. That day he had come home late and found the wife sleeping with their son in bed. He then opt to sleep in the guest's bedroom. 

My dear friend was trembling in bed not knowing what ghost had visited this day. He didn't want to shout for help... no no no... Let me rephrase; he didn't want to scream for help; for what kind of a man screams like a coward just like that. "What if it was just the curtains?" He thought.

My friend was more scared than a cornered mouse. He thought of jumping and knocking this object that felt to be close but fear couldn't allow him. 

After a prayer that was quickly mumbled to shun away all the evil spirits, he found the energy and courage to move his fingers and reach the mobile phone that was just next to him. 

He then switched on the torch to face what he knew was the devil himself and surprise, surprise!! His dear wife was the one standing next to him in her beautiful night dress with a blank face staring down at him. Once the light hit her face, She quietly turned around and left without uttering a single word. 

My friend had never been this disturbed. Sleep was no more. He asked himself several Questions. Checking and counter checking whether he had wronged the wife as far back as even when they were dating and if he had apologised for his wrong doings. 

This was around 2am in the morning. He was too confused. He wanted to go ask the wife what was wrong but again wasn't sure of himself. He then decided to leave the lights on till bright morning as he pondered and beat himself with endless unanswered questions. "Was she admiring me in the dark?" He thought... maybe, maybe not.

To cut the long story short. In marriage we must learn to communicate effectively and forgive one another because we are all prone to making mistakes. Nobody is a saint! 

Miscommunication is a major cause of problems in this institution and so was the problem with my friend and the wife. The husband earlier mentioned that she was meeting a certain lady for dinner and even shared the name and a few details.  

The dinner and meeting took way too long and my friend assumed the wife would understand. Shock on him!! These kinds of issues are very common in marriage. 

Learn to communicate effectively with your partner. As for this case both parties failed. The husband failed to give appropriate details and/or update the wife accordingly and the wife also however being bothered didn't sort to inquire further and instead of talking to the hubby in the night when she woke up, She decided to scare the hell out of him. 

Our brain has this really convenient habit of filling in details.  We see body language and hear a tone of voice, and we soon have an entire story based on a couple details.  Sometimes it is a really helpful social skill.  Other times, it is a recipe for disaster. 

Learn to open up and share more... And if you have time or opportunity to pray, please do pray before tackling an issue. Prayer humbles the soul and you will have also invited The Lord into your discussion. 

I'm wishing you peaceful and blessed marriages.

#Effective Communication is key!!